Happy Birthday
My baby turned three today. There are few events that my wife and I experience at the exact same time and walk away with completely different views on the event. My daughter’s birth was one of those times.
She is our third child, all born on Sunday mornings, and so on the Saturday night before she was born, we went to the hospital. The plugged my wife into machines, did their job, and sent us home.
I went to sleep. She did too, but then she woke up early Sunday morning and started timing contractions. She woke me up, told me this time it was real, and we went to the hospital.
Again they hooked her up to machines, said she was super-dilated, and that the baby was ready to come out. 90 minutes later our daughter was born. Of our three children, it was the easiest birth. No walking through the hospital halls all night long. No waiting around to get another millimeter dilated. Just walk in, have the baby. Perfect.
To hear my wife tell it, though, you’d think this was the worst event ever.
I think we differ on the 90 minutes between when we got there and the baby was born. To me, it was a perfect amount of time. To her, it was 90 minutes of pain and drug-free suffering, as it was too late for drugs by the time the anesthesiologist arrived.
Two people in the exact same place, experiencing the exact same birth of a child. One thinking it was the best birth ever; the other thinking it was the worst.
She is our third child, all born on Sunday mornings, and so on the Saturday night before she was born, we went to the hospital. The plugged my wife into machines, did their job, and sent us home.
I went to sleep. She did too, but then she woke up early Sunday morning and started timing contractions. She woke me up, told me this time it was real, and we went to the hospital.
Again they hooked her up to machines, said she was super-dilated, and that the baby was ready to come out. 90 minutes later our daughter was born. Of our three children, it was the easiest birth. No walking through the hospital halls all night long. No waiting around to get another millimeter dilated. Just walk in, have the baby. Perfect.
To hear my wife tell it, though, you’d think this was the worst event ever.
I think we differ on the 90 minutes between when we got there and the baby was born. To me, it was a perfect amount of time. To her, it was 90 minutes of pain and drug-free suffering, as it was too late for drugs by the time the anesthesiologist arrived.
Two people in the exact same place, experiencing the exact same birth of a child. One thinking it was the best birth ever; the other thinking it was the worst.
posted by Air Time at 9:06 AM
10 Comments:
I cannot share my birthing stories with people because they are too good to be true -- and yes, I screamed like a banshee but was drug-free for all three relatively short births.
My middle child was born on Shabbos Nachamu--guess she didn't quite understand the concept of that name because she chose that day to come into the world. In any case, we had to consult with a rabbi and prearrange if I'd have to go into hospital on a Shabbos...which I did. We "checked in" and I was put into a room by 8:25 p.m. My daughter was born at 8:50 p.m. Shabbos was out at 9:10 p.m.
H.B. to your daughter and many more!
Two people in the exact same place(no, she was in stirrups,you were in a room with her) ,
experiencing the exact same birth of a child.(no you were watching, she was passing a volvo size object through a hole not wider then your ear canal)
One thinking it was the best birth ever(because you were gonna eat breakfast sitting down);
the other thinking it was the worst(she could not feel her lower extremities)
Amshi - so you understand why it was the best birth ever for me
Air, this is not an attitude about the birthing experience that women like to hear their husbands express. Trust me. I've been there.
My second was so quick I almost missed it. We go there, plugged her in (as you so eloquently put) and I quickly went to daven. When I came out (I'm not a long davener), they were looking all over for me. I just made it. If it was Rosh Chodesh, I wouldv'e missed it.
M4 - Trust me, when she reads this later she will give us her perspective on it.
Check out my book on Labor and Delivery. It was written from my perspective of the woman's perspective.
http://technologism.com/aliyah/archive/baby.doc
my god.
it's all women can talk about. "when i was pregnant with my chayimll."
OK, readers. Here it is, the real story: Up until the 90 minutes, all was amazingly acurately told by my Dear One. What he messed up were the "90 minutes". I went into labor at 5:30, woke Arye at 6:30, were in the hospital "hooked up" by 7, and she was born at 9:08. So, Ar, your calculations are wrong (which is why I have always timed my own contractions, by the way)
Also, Amshi, there are no stirrups in a delivery room, but I thank you for your kind sentiments.
To those females who have not yet experienced the creation of life, get the drugs. "Natural childbirth" is only natural for animals. It's inhuman.
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