Sunday, December 25, 2005

The Chunkah Presents thing

I have good kids. Really good kids. The kind who look out for one another, who get good grades and are helpful and go the extra mile to try and do the right thing.

They are, generally speaking, helpful, respectful and responsible.

Which makes it hard not to give them presents on Chanukah. They have certainly been on the nice side of the naughty and nice list.

When people ask why our kids listen so well, I don't really have an answer for them. The best I can come up with is that when we say we are going to turn around the car and go back home if they don't stop fighting, and they continue fighting, we turn around and go back home.

Which meant that we couldn't come off our "no presents" stand. If consistency and following through are the key ingredients to keeping our kids, we couldn't change our minds here even if we wanted to. They would know that when mom or dad threatens something, it can be negotiated down or behaved away.

We needed to come up with something though.

So we decided to give them money. Every day, over the eight days of Chanukah, we are going to give them some money. And every day, they are going to have to put some of the money in tzedakah, and put the rest in their bank. And after Chanukah, they are going to get to go to whatever store they choose, and blow all the money.

They know that they aren't getting presents this year because of how they behaved last Chanukah. I'm hoping they can respond better this time around.


Blogger 2R said...

whoo-hoo! i'll call the hafganot and letters to the senators off :) glad we could come to some for the MTA

December 26, 2005 3:15 AM  
Blogger Jameel @ The Muqata said...

Wow...I'm in awe.

No presents, and you didn't bend in the slightest?

Parent of year award goes to you guys.

December 26, 2005 9:41 AM  
Blogger Still Wonderin' said...

"No presents, and you didn't bend in the slightest?
Parent of year award goes to you guys."

I think the award is in order because you established a reasonable and creative solution to what could have been an understandable, but likely traumatic punishment. You have my nomination.

December 26, 2005 9:54 AM  
Blogger Jameel @ The Muqata said...

still wonderin':

(I didn't consider the money aspect as bending...but your point is valid too)

December 26, 2005 10:03 AM  
Blogger rockofgalilee said...

that makes no sense at all. Basically you gave in to your crying whiny children.

Last year they whined that they didn't like the gifts they got so this year instead of giving them gifts, you are giving them money so they can buy whatever gift they want.

That sounds like you're teaching them if they whine and complain then they get what they want.

December 27, 2005 1:02 AM  
Blogger Air Time said...

Thank for the nomination. As you all know, it is an honor just to be nominated.

Rock - Where does it say anywhere in here that they were whining and we gave in? There were no whining children here.

December 27, 2005 7:29 AM  
Blogger Veev said...

They didn't even complain. They know how we parent. If we say it's not happening, it's not happening. We are just trying to bring a little of Chanukah tradition back into Chanukah.

December 27, 2005 6:03 PM  
Blogger Jerusalemcop said...

enjoy ur last chanukkah in The Motor City. Is Dick pertan still doing the morning show on Q95? haven't heard him since the early 90's before I came on aliyah


December 28, 2005 5:14 AM  
Blogger Air Time said...


Dick Purtan left 95.5 years ago, but I believe he is still on locally on some oldies station, maybe 104.3.

December 28, 2005 7:16 AM  
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